Posts by: David Hahklotubbe

Be a Noticer.  Questions to ask Assisted Living Providers, and What to Note. Part 5 of 5
October 26, 2020

Be a Noticer. Questions to ask Assisted Living Providers, and What to Note. Part 5 of 5

Whew, you made it!  Welcome to the final installment of our “Noticer” series.  By now you are almost an expert on navigating long term care and are far more qualified to make an informed decision on placing a loved one.  We’ve uncovered some of the lesser-known “behind the scenes shenanigans that go on, now we are focusing our attention on who the more reliable sources of unbiased information comes from.  I will be rating these[…]
Read More
Be a Noticer.  Questions to ask Assisted Living Providers, and What to Note. Part 4 of 5
October 9, 2020

Be a Noticer. Questions to ask Assisted Living Providers, and What to Note. Part 4 of 5

Huzzah!  You must not be suffering from information overload.  That’s great.  Make sure you pay close attention to this edition which is chocked full of the dark side of the reputation management of the long-term care industry, from a seasoned insider. Ok, now that we have covered some of the fundamentals of what the community offers, how they manage their team and a bit of philosophical approach, let’s dig deeper into reputation. Ideally, you would[…]
Read More
Be a Noticer.  Questions to ask Assisted Living Providers, and What to Note. Part 3 of 5
June 8, 2020

Be a Noticer. Questions to ask Assisted Living Providers, and What to Note. Part 3 of 5

Brilliant!  Great to see you’re back.  I hope this series is paying dividend for you as you perform due diligence on behalf of your loved one.  As kamikaze as this gesture may seem, I am willing to entertain 1:1 questions, so if you should feel the need, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me via email:  David@SonnetHill.com.  My passion is improving the quality of life of humanity, any opportunity I get is a blessing.[…]
Read More
Be A “Noticer”: Questions to Ask Assisted Living Providers & Notes to Take Part 2 of 5
June 3, 2020

Be A “Noticer”: Questions to Ask Assisted Living Providers & Notes to Take Part 2 of 5

Welcome back!  I am excited that you returned for more insight.  As a reminder, the questions you will be asking are important, but the reasoning behind WHY you are asking them is most pertinent.  With that in mind, we will pick up where we left off. At this point, you have assessed your first impression based on a number of factors in the initial reception.  You have drilled down on some specifics such as current[…]
Read More
Be A “Noticer”: Questions to Ask Assisted Living Providers & Notes to Take Part 1 of 5
May 23, 2020

Be A “Noticer”: Questions to Ask Assisted Living Providers & Notes to Take Part 1 of 5

Congratulations and welcome to taking your first steps along the path of navigating senior care.  You will find that your efforts to perform due diligence will result in a universally higher quality of life for everyone involved in this process.  As your guide, I am committed to delivering knowledge that only a Gerontologist working in the field for 20+ years can obtain.  In exchange, all I ask is that you follow through, and, on occasion,[…]
Read More
“You’re Not Putting ME in a Home” 4/4
May 17, 2020

“You’re Not Putting ME in a Home” 4/4

Welcome back to the 4th and final installment of my guide to managing opposition of a loved one needing out of home care.  I’m glad you’ve stuck it out, that’s a positive indicator that you are performing due diligence, the cornerstone of success in this journey. As a bit of a recap, to tie everything together.  We have discussed the fact that Americans are terrible at being proactive about later-life planning.  As a result, we[…]
Read More
“You’re Not Putting ME in a Home” 3/4
May 10, 2020

“You’re Not Putting ME in a Home” 3/4

You’ve come back, excellent!  I’m glad I didn’t manage to scare you off quite yet.  Today’s BLOG will be a dive deep into conflict resolution.  Wait, what?  Am I suggesting that there will be conflict in this process?  Recall my BLOG on Disappointment being the product of expectations not met?  Well, I’m here to recalibrate your expectations.  Under no uncertain terms; there will be conflict.  So, let’s jump in to figure out where the conflict[…]
Read More
“You’re Not Putting ME in a Home!” 2/4
May 8, 2020

“You’re Not Putting ME in a Home!” 2/4

Welcome back.  I am assuming that you’ve decided to forge ahead in reading this series because you have chosen wisely to follow the path of due diligence.  To this, I say, congratulations and thank you.  The following tips will facilitate a decrease in trauma as your journey unfolds. One major internal barrier that you will undoubtedly struggle with as you walk the path, will be disappointment.  As you read my BLOGs and watch my VLOGs[…]
Read More
“You’re Not Putting ME in a Home!”  1of 4
May 4, 2020

“You’re Not Putting ME in a Home!” 1of 4

This fear-filled posture permeates almost everyone’s life at one point or another.  And, it’s less of a question of why, and more of a question of why wouldn’t there be fear?  Fear tends to exist and propagate in the absence of knowledge.  We tend to insert worst case scenario beliefs when we lack fact and then we backfill our position with even more inaccuracies, compounding the rapidly growing mountain of falsehoods.  These beliefs are what[…]
Read More
WHY behind the WHAT – The Story of Saving Grace
May 1, 2020

WHY behind the WHAT – The Story of Saving Grace

Like anyone else, I am often asked what I do for a living.  To this inquiry, I give a brief pause, take a deep breath and launch into a TED-Talk-esque response.  You see, I’ve learned over two decades that my response of “I’m a Gerontologist” is ineffective, I will be met with one of 4 possible responses.  First, sadly, because we are an ageist culture, I brace myself for “what is that?”  Second, is the[…]
Read More
Let Us Be Your Guide On Your Senior Care Journey
April 26, 2020

Let Us Be Your Guide On Your Senior Care Journey

Guilt, Denial, Loss, Grief, Self-doubt, Shame, Disappointment, Confusion, Projection, Cognitive Dissonance, Paranoia, Anger……. FEAR.  These are common “companions” for those seeking care for their elderly loved ones.  And, unfortunately, because the average American shies away from being proactive about addressing the mortality of their beloved parent or spouse, these “companions” are only amplified in intensity when decisions are being made while facing crisis. Because most begin their search only after a serious incident, the typical[…]
Read More
Two Wars Being Fought at Once: Covid 19 and the Media – Please Help!
April 21, 2020

Two Wars Being Fought at Once: Covid 19 and the Media – Please Help!

  Crisis amplifies the strengths and weaknesses in humanity.  Amid all the “We’re in This Together” campaigns laced with tear-jerking candid still-shots and emotion-provoking music and the showering of affection for the “essential workers” such as hospital workers, nurses, doctors, delivery drivers, chefs and store operators, there is a glaring disparity, and it’s nothing new. While most health care industries are being held in high regard with a positive spotlight shone upon them, once again,[…]
Read More
X